People say women are hard to understand but for some women, it’s hard to understand men. How do we tell men like us? What are the signs? Well, here’s your guide to be slightly surer than you were before.
11 things men do when they secretly like you:
1. Make excuses to see you all the time:
When you like someone, you want to spend as much time with them as possible, right? Guys are exactly the same. Even commitment phobes will eventually make an effort to spend more than one day in a row with you if they really like you.
Resnick explains that a guy who likes you will be more interested in seeing you again than getting you in bed that night. Maybe he goes old school and leaves his watch at your place, or maybe he mentions he’s “in the neighborhood tomorrow for a dentist appointment.”
If he’s texting you once a week and that’s it? He’s probably just not that into you.
2. Text You To Make Sure You Got Home Safe
Being a gentleman takes work, you know? In my experience, the dudes who took the seven seconds to check in to make sure I got home safe post-date were the ones who stuck around for a while.
If you arrive home to a concise, adorable “home safe?” text, he cares about you and wants to be sure you didn’t get murdered. He’s a keeper.
3. Tease You For Your Taste In Beer
Or your taste in movies. Or your inability to handle spicy foods. As long as they are not actually being mean, if a guy is teasing you, he probably has a crush on you. This guy on Reddit confirms that when he likes someone, he will:
Middle school flirting lives. Take note.
4. Ignore Twitter And Work Emails
Resnick says that a major sign that a guy is actually into you is that he will simply put his phone down and focus on you. Even if he’s a secret agent for the CIA, if he’s into you, he wants to look at you, talk to you, and connect with you more than he wants to connect with his suggested connections on LinkedIn.
When a guy keeps his phone down and doesn’t whip it out the second he goes to the bathroom, he’s into you.
5. Let You Have The Last Piece Of Sashimi
Being offered that lone piece of salmon sashimi left on our sushi boat is my favorite kind of gentlemanly gesture.
Early on in dating, if he offers you the last bite, he’s a guy with nice manners who might just want to F you. On date 15 though, when you are more comfortable with each other and he still gives you dibs, he cares about seeing you smile. He’s into it, and you should be, too.
6. Look To Your Reaction After Making A Joke
This is very real. If a guy is into you, when he cracks a joke or mentions a cool new job he is interviewing for and then immediately looks to see what your reaction is, he cares about your opinion of him.
If a guy cares about your opinion of him, he probably likes and respects you. Watch his eyeline (but not in a creepy way).
7. Accidentally “Like” Your Instagram From 2014
When you get a “like” notification from “aturner94” on a Hefe-filtered photo with approximately 12 likes from before you even knew how to use Instagram, and then you check and it’s disappeared, he was checking you out. This is not creepy — let’s face it, we’ve all done it — but it’s definitely a sign that he wants to learn more about you.
Don’t call him out on this super cute “oopsie.” He’ll be mortified.
8. Get Super Awkward Out Of Nowhere
Middle school is a recurring theme here. Those butterflies are real and guys feel them, too. This guy was very honest about how he feels around women he is actually into:
I’m not suggesting your date needs to start speaking in tongues at dinner, or lose his balance on the way to the bathroom, but if you notice some shy, nervous, rapid-fire question asking on his part, he might just be feeling all of the feels. Adorable AF.
9. Not Look Directly Into Your Eyes
Sounds backwards, right? If he really, really likes you, doesn’t he want to get lost in your big beautiful eyeballs? Not necessarily. Early on, he might feel intimidated by making direct eye contact. Looking into each others eyes is as intimate as it gets. This guy put it perfectly, when he likes someone he will:
I do this, too. Crushes turn us into little kids, and it makes my heart melt like an ice cream cone in August.
10. Introduce You To His Friends
OK, so this isn’t necessarily a tiny thing, but it’s a surefire sign that bae is actually into you. Bro-cults are very sacred, and cannot be broken up by a female sorceress who’s going to steal one of the crew on Saturdays (which, obviously, are for the boys). If he’s introducing you to his pals, he likes you.
“This means that he wants his friends’ opinion on you, which is a solid indicator that he’s really interested,” says Resnick.
11. Get Real With You
Some men are open and share all of their family history and feelings off the bat; others are more guarded with those things. Either way, if your dude is dropping his swag and letting you in, he likes you.
“Unfortunately, a lot of guys start off trying to seem a little elusive at first. It’s one part power play and one part fear of looking too needy,” says Resnick. “When he actually likes you, he’ll drop that wall. He’ll usually respond to texts faster, and he’ll show more interest in your life and being a part of it.”
The little hints that mean the guy you are dating is really into you might look different than what I listed above. My biggest advice is: Don’t overanalyze. If a guy likes you, you’ll know.
All of this adorableness really makes me want to find a new crush and feel all of the butterflies, so I’m going to go do that. Keep crushing it, ladies.